💯 Thank you for your realness Linn. This is something I have found to be challenging throughout my life — the difference between how I think I’m communicating something compared to the way it is actually received. I find that these misunderstandings are even more likely to happen via text and email since they lack the tone and inflections of a conversation.
In an ideal scenario, the way something is intended and the way it’s received are exactly the same. However, sometimes there can be a big difference (often without even realizing it at the time) and can cause problems. Being on the sending end, it can also feel frustrating to know I had the right intentions but then felt misunderstood and/or wrongfully judged.
Anyway, with all that being said, it’s a humbling process to self-reflect and put in the work to make adjustments. I appreciate and respect you for doing that. These situations are uncomfortable, but there’s always something to learn if we’re open to it. Each time is an opportunity to uncover a blind spot and make adjustments for the future.
I will continue to uncover blind spots like this and will be in the LEARN + PRACTICE stages for a loooong time 🙃
P.S. I just did a quick Google search to see if there’s a name for this topic, and there is: “intent vs. impact”. Looks like there are some interesting articles online
I had a dear friend and we talked every day via text. At the end of her day she says to me that she “took the kids and the dog to the park and the dog was hit”.
Oh my gosh, I was at an absolute loss! I was gut punched! I didn’t know how to speak with her but I knew that somehow I wanted to be comforting to her… but I didn’t want to be confrontational! I was just in an absolute tizzy! So I asked her a couple of gentle questions to which she responded. I was very disturbed by her candor and quite confused by her responses. I could not discern from her responses that I had heard it wrong. After about an hour of ’emotional but trying to appear chill’ texting, I learned what she had meant. Her text was supposed to say “he was A hit”
I love learning moments so I said to her, this is a learning moment for both of us. That we both should recognize that when something doesn’t quite look right, don’t immediately jump on the wagon that you’re perceiving it 100% correctly. Perhaps there’s a chance that something as simple as a letter is missing and that letter is the the reason for the reaction.
Humans are mistake makers. Don’t beat yourself up. They are also forgiving. The good ones anyway.
Agreed. 🎯
💯 Thank you for your realness Linn. This is something I have found to be challenging throughout my life — the difference between how I think I’m communicating something compared to the way it is actually received. I find that these misunderstandings are even more likely to happen via text and email since they lack the tone and inflections of a conversation.
In an ideal scenario, the way something is intended and the way it’s received are exactly the same. However, sometimes there can be a big difference (often without even realizing it at the time) and can cause problems. Being on the sending end, it can also feel frustrating to know I had the right intentions but then felt misunderstood and/or wrongfully judged.
Anyway, with all that being said, it’s a humbling process to self-reflect and put in the work to make adjustments. I appreciate and respect you for doing that. These situations are uncomfortable, but there’s always something to learn if we’re open to it. Each time is an opportunity to uncover a blind spot and make adjustments for the future.
I will continue to uncover blind spots like this and will be in the LEARN + PRACTICE stages for a loooong time 🙃
Much Love,
Danny
P.S. I just did a quick Google search to see if there’s a name for this topic, and there is: “intent vs. impact”. Looks like there are some interesting articles online
This is a fabulous lesson!
I had a dear friend and we talked every day via text. At the end of her day she says to me that she “took the kids and the dog to the park and the dog was hit”.
Oh my gosh, I was at an absolute loss! I was gut punched! I didn’t know how to speak with her but I knew that somehow I wanted to be comforting to her… but I didn’t want to be confrontational! I was just in an absolute tizzy! So I asked her a couple of gentle questions to which she responded. I was very disturbed by her candor and quite confused by her responses. I could not discern from her responses that I had heard it wrong. After about an hour of ’emotional but trying to appear chill’ texting, I learned what she had meant. Her text was supposed to say “he was A hit”
I love learning moments so I said to her, this is a learning moment for both of us. That we both should recognize that when something doesn’t quite look right, don’t immediately jump on the wagon that you’re perceiving it 100% correctly. Perhaps there’s a chance that something as simple as a letter is missing and that letter is the the reason for the reaction.